Friends Share (Review)

I just finished reading a very hot story called "Friends Share" by Autumn Seave.

As the title suggests, this is a story about four friends sharing a girl and it's written from the girl's point of view. She's in a committed relationship with Sean and they love each other very much to the point of going to extra lengths to fulfill each other's sexual fantasies. Passing reference is made to experiments with domination involving a professional dominatrix and group sex with some girlfriends. But "Friends Share" is all about fulfilling the girl's ultimate fantasy of being with a group of men.

I loved that this story was written by a woman who's committed to writing her fantasies just as I do—and has an imagination that goes places I've been hesitant to explore. Themes of domination, spanking and name-calling have always seemed like male fetishes to me—fetishes that I don't particularly indulge in—but the author has shown me that women can be just as turned on by them as men can. This shouldn't surprise me. I consider myself a fairly open-minded and progressive person with an understanding of sexual liberation, and yet here I am, kinda surprise by what I read. Of course that didn't make it any less arousing.

The idea of sharing a woman with another man—or men—is one of my fantasies as well and it's nice to be able to connect with the author in this way. It makes me feel less alone and less weird about my own sexuality and reminds me that we all have our naughty desires and that it's okay. And there's no safer way to explore them than to do so in prose.

The story is also available on Smashwords and it's affiliates.

Taking a break...

Writing erotica is like scratching an itch for me. I get an idea for a scenario or scenarios and I start to fantasize about it or them. Writing it all down gets it out of my system and I no longer dwell on it, I move on. Preferably to non-erotica projects.

My last novella, "Virtual Encounters," felt a little incomplete so I decided to write a sort-of-sequel to it. I say sort of because this "sequel" takes place concurrently with the closing of the last chapter (before the epilogue) of the original story. Basically, reference is made to a couple of encounters that Craig and Veronica have before they sell their HoloGen system. This sequel, "Virtual Encounter with Billy" is about those encounters. I suppose I could have just added another chapter or three to the original document but I do enjoy making book covers.

Anyway, I've gotten one more story out of my system and, for now, I don't have any other fantasies that I'm entertaining. I'm in a good place and I'll be trying to focus my energy on other stories that I'll develop and distribute under my given name. The Stephen Olander pseudonym is going to take a break.

Curves ahead

I don't go into too many details when it comes to physically describing my characters. Part of the reason is because I think that no matter how I describe them, my readers are going to picture them in their minds in their own way anyhow. So I offer limited descriptions of hair and eye color and emphasize the use of words like, "Fit," "Athletic," "Muscular," "Voluptuous" and, of course, "Curvaceous." Though I do occasionally offer a cup-size when describing a female character's breasts.

I do love a woman with curves. The classic hourglass figure will always get my attention and many of my female characters are described that way with curves that don't quit. One notable exception was the character of Valerie in "Submitting to Angie" who I described as athletic and somewhat small-breasted but still a very sexy woman. The reason I described her the way I did is because she's based on a person that I really knew who looked that way.

Of course, only a handful of my characters are inspired by real people, most are just figments of my imagination. Though Christy in "Camping with Christy" was inspired by a real person, the character ultimately took on characteristics that were unique to the fictional character that I created and she wound up not really resembling, in my mind at least, the woman that inspired her.

My main male characters are usually "fit" and perhaps muscularly "defined" but their male lovers are usually described as "pretty boys" and sometimes "twinks" with an air of femininity about them since why else would an otherwise straight male character sleep with another man if not for the fact that he was pretty? Well, in the case of Greg and Alan, you've got two guys approaching middle age on fairly equal footing physically. Then there's the case of the simulant characters of Billy (a pretty boy) and Hank (a masculine, muscular specimen) in "Virtual Encounters" who will be revisited in another story.

Do I have to share?

I was asked recently if I had to share my erotica writing by someone who understood that it's a way for me to find some sexual release (once I have a fantasy written down, it's no longer in my head and I don't dwell on it).

I have to admit that I feel a little conflicted about it. I'm a spiritual person and this is definitely not spiritual writing and while it is a release for me, it might not exactly be a positive thing for others.

I used to just share my erotica for free on the web site Literotica but now I'm self published and get a little income from my writing, which makes it even more difficult NOT to share since there's a monetary reward for it now.

There's also the part of me, which is part of any writer or artist, to seek validation and how can I get validated for what I do if I don't share it?

What do you think?

Thoughts on my latest project

So, I'm outlining my new story and it's bringing up a lot of interesting questions about ethics and relationships. It's also making me think about ethics and the use of the technology. While most of my erotic writing is pretty straight forward "sex stories," this is the first of my erotic stories that is proving to be as intellectually stimulating as it is sexually stimulating. I can only hope that my readers feel the same way about it.

Behind the storytelling

I've got a friend who writes erotica and people often ask her if her sex life is as exciting as what she writes. She makes it clear to anyone who asks that she's pretty vanilla in the bedroom and I imagine that's the case with most erotic authors. That their imaginations go places that they rarely if ever go in real life.

I've shared some personal experiences on this blog that show that I can be pretty kinky in bed but I've also said that I write about things that I'll probably never do for real. As "hot" as my erotica can get, I feel that I need to come clean about something... I don't have an active sex-life. I am, for the most part, celibate. I do date and as I said in a previous post, I'm hoping to meet someone to marry but I'm trying my best to hold off on having sex until I am married. I haven't been successful at this since I have slept with a couple of women in my life with whom I've had some amazing and somewhat kinky sex but they have been few and far between.

Writing erotica is how I choose to release my sexual energy instead of actually having sex and it works quite well for me. I hope that my future spouse will understand this and hopefully she'll be willing to read my work so she has a better understanding of my sexuality and appreciation of my fantasies, just as I hope she'll share her fantasies with me. Perhaps we can write something together.

Thinking about Star Trek

Yeah, I'm kind of a nerd. I love science fiction which is probably why I'm eager to get started on my next erotica project—an erotic science fiction story—so much so that I'm going to offer a bit of a spoiler here.

No, my story is not going to be erotic Star Trek fan fiction—though I have read a story or two along those lines. But it is going to look at one of my favorite pieces of "Trechnology," the holodeck. While I'll need to come up with another name for it in my story, I've always thought—from the first time I saw it on the series—that if I had my own holodeck, I'd use it to get laid. Hey, I'm just being honest. I'd use it to fulfill every sexual urge and fantasy I've ever had and, let's face it, if the technology existed in real life, that would be a major market for it. Sure, the educational and entertainment potential of something like a holodeck would be fantastic and very useful but I'm pretty sure that the driving force behind any advancements in the technology would be headed up by the adult entertainment industry.

So, that's what I'll be exploring in my story, from the perspective of a married couple that wants to explore their sexual fantasies together with the help of new technology.