I've got a friend who writes erotica and people often ask her if her sex life is as exciting as what she writes. She makes it clear to anyone who asks that she's pretty vanilla in the bedroom and I imagine that's the case with most erotic authors. That their imaginations go places that they rarely if ever go in real life.
I've shared some personal experiences on this blog that show that I can be pretty kinky in bed but I've also said that I write about things that I'll probably never do for real. As "hot" as my erotica can get, I feel that I need to come clean about something... I don't have an active sex-life. I am, for the most part, celibate. I do date and as I said in a previous post, I'm hoping to meet someone to marry but I'm trying my best to hold off on having sex until I am married. I haven't been successful at this since I have slept with a couple of women in my life with whom I've had some amazing and somewhat kinky sex but they have been few and far between.
Writing erotica is how I choose to release my sexual energy instead of actually having sex and it works quite well for me. I hope that my future spouse will understand this and hopefully she'll be willing to read my work so she has a better understanding of my sexuality and appreciation of my fantasies, just as I hope she'll share her fantasies with me. Perhaps we can write something together.