Monday, October 7, 2013

Behind the storytelling

I've got a friend who writes erotica and people often ask her if her sex life is as exciting as what she writes. She makes it clear to anyone who asks that she's pretty vanilla in the bedroom and I imagine that's the case with most erotic authors. That their imaginations go places that they rarely if ever go in real life.

I've shared some personal experiences on this blog that show that I can be pretty kinky in bed but I've also said that I write about things that I'll probably never do for real. As "hot" as my erotica can get, I feel that I need to come clean about something... I don't have an active sex-life. I am, for the most part, celibate. I do date and as I said in a previous post, I'm hoping to meet someone to marry but I'm trying my best to hold off on having sex until I am married. I haven't been successful at this since I have slept with a couple of women in my life with whom I've had some amazing and somewhat kinky sex but they have been few and far between.

Writing erotica is how I choose to release my sexual energy instead of actually having sex and it works quite well for me. I hope that my future spouse will understand this and hopefully she'll be willing to read my work so she has a better understanding of my sexuality and appreciation of my fantasies, just as I hope she'll share her fantasies with me. Perhaps we can write something together.


  1. I, too, am mostly celibate, though not by choice. When half of a relationship has absolutely no interest, the other half eventually cuts baits and leaves, since he won't fish. When the opportunity presents itself, I won't hesitate.

    I applaud you for standing by your principles.

  2. Your blog entries are always frank and to the point. Thank you for sharing this with us, as you are brave enough to share everything that you do. I wish you true happiness, and I applaud you, as Suzana has, for standing by your beliefs! Hopefully, you will find your soulmate soon. :)

  3. I think it's wonderful that you know yourself and what you want ;) The brain is the biggest sexual organ, you are putting yours to excellent use! There is no rush, you will find your special someone, often when you least expect it. Until then, you can keep us all happy with your imagination.